I've heard that question a few times and tried to describe it a few times in a few ways. Let me attempt it one more time here.
I left SFE after things started to go for my once a month discipleship time with PC and her 'girls'. Looking back, I'm part of this group since 5 years or more. Su Leen just started working and still single, have not met Marcus then. Now, she's got two kids!
Since the beginning, PC created a culture and a platform where we share life, share our ups and downs, and we can talk about everything under the sky yet careful enough to care for each others' feelings and not be offensive... ok. it sounds more like we are being taught.
But that is true! We are being taught the word of God and how to live it out in our lives. Whoever says that living is easy is in denial. Living is tough and can be heart-wrenching. But PC not just teach us the WOG, she walk it out with us. There is not a time where she did not make her effort to be there for us during tough times - reminding us the promises of God, and praying with us and for us! That is her kind of discipleship.
The other side of discipleship time we have together is FELLOWSHIP! We not just learn together, we became friends and enjoy each other - "together-gether". Tonight, we had a simple farewell for Elaine, which you all know from my previous post, that she's going to move back to Mallacca this Thursday. Each of us brought a word or a gift to encourage her and spur her on. I came late cos of the SFE but I walk in right on the time where it's my turn to share. I gave a word to Elaine, made a simple card for her and thank her for her friendship! and she reciprocated our love with preparing a love letter for each of us... aww... sooo sweet of her! After tears and hugs, we prayed for her. It's not "Goodbye, Elaine" but just "Till Next Time, Laine"!
Then, PC prepared bah kut teh for us. Su Leen brought dessert and Hao Ying brought the ice-cream for it. We all had a great time eating and laughing. In this group, we can be real, we can share even our frustrations and we can accept each other - genuinely and sincerely. We were strangers that became sisters in this group.
If after reading this, you feel like you want to be part of that kind of a family-discipleship, don't! Don't want what is built by others. Each of us needs to be the one to build that kind of a relationship. Be that kind person ourselves, then we will build a family with those around us.
Will u also bring out your heart in your own group? Whether it's LG or discipleship time or even in One2One sessions. =)