i got into an accident yesterday at about 12:12pm.
the worse thing was i bang my pastor/my boss/the upcoming bride's car..
i was driving pc from the frame shop to go home. we were driving along jalan puchong (at the junction of the yong tau foo and temple) and i was behind a bus and then i signal to go right and then go striaght. it's supposedly no traffic light for going straight but red light for those turning right. but the aunty in the first car stopped, assuming it's red. the perdana bang her, i bang the perdana. but our car was the worse.
i was really really shaken and trembling and the car was sputtering and liquid leaking and smoke coming out and i was really trembling from inside out. i've been driving pc's car for like the past 6 years and i never bang her car and the first time i do it, i did it to the worst. obviously it's towed to the workshop opposite church! hahaha...
you must be wondering why did i post this here instead of my personal blog right. so, this is what i think:-
1. BELIEVE - discovering a life with God
through all these, i belive that the hands of God was upon us, protecting us and covering us in grace, comforting us (more like comforting me cos pc was really cool about it) and His peace was at the scene because nobody was hurt and none of the drivers came out arguing and shouting. we all talked nicely and even the husband of the aunty came and when i apologised to him, he was like "it's ok, nobody wanted this. it's just unavoidable. it's ok..."
2. BELONG - discovering a life with others
after we drove to the side, pc called charles. well, almost everyone that knows him calls him when there's an accident. he's the best! charles was nearby and he came immedaitely. when he arrived, he told us what to do, he went to get the guy from the workshop to get someone trustable to tow our car, took us to the police station, told us how to write the report before passing us to kelvin and the workshop guy. having him around gives us assurance that someone knows what to do.
and being the ladies there, i can tell u that it was traumatising to have like 10 other guys stopping by just to get business from you. they were aggresive and when we say our friend is coming, they immediately turn around and started accusing us of being the wrong party and it's all our fault and everyone is to claim our insurance. when charles came, he defended us, stood in front of us and answered all the accusations calmly and to leave it to the hands of the police.
nobody asked if we were alright. i was standing there shaking and trembling and having these 'men' pointing fingers at me. without pc and charles there, i think i will burst right out into sobs. u want to know what is church? this is what church means. we stand with each other!!
3. BECOME - discovering a life with purpose
during this accident, pc didnt scold me or was sad about the car or the trouble without car right before the wedding or the happenings because she knows that it's just a car and it does not rule our lives and just got to get it fixed. part of managing life includes accidents. and she was totally not deterred from continuing to plan and take care of things for her wedding immediately after that. superwoman!
one other thing i discovered in this incident is that when someone is in an accident, please don't shrug them off as though it's a normal affair to be shaken after an accident. assure the person it's gonna be ok soon. one step at a time. hug them and sayang them and tell them u're here for them. if they need you, u'll be there.
and the other thing i discovered is that no matter whose fault it is, the person behind gets the saman - RM300 (compound to RM200 whatever that means).
the other other thing i discovered is that every time after i'm shaken badly (the last was the monkeys and now this) i really need to cry it all out - the wailing kind - to release from the mental tension. i cried in the toilet when i reach my aunty's shop at about 5pm, i cried on the way driving home about 7pm plus and i wailed out loud in the car after i parked below my apt at about 8pm plus. after that i think i'm on the journey of healing. i didnt have nightmare because i was really really drained after the whole day affair. i dropped to a dead sleep last night. i didnt even realised i was that tired. God's peace abounds more than the affairs of the world. God gave me rest.
*side note - i didnt post this blog for you to buy 4-digit yah... ahahahhaahha.. just kidding
the worse thing was i bang my pastor/my boss/the upcoming bride's car..
i was driving pc from the frame shop to go home. we were driving along jalan puchong (at the junction of the yong tau foo and temple) and i was behind a bus and then i signal to go right and then go striaght. it's supposedly no traffic light for going straight but red light for those turning right. but the aunty in the first car stopped, assuming it's red. the perdana bang her, i bang the perdana. but our car was the worse.
i was really really shaken and trembling and the car was sputtering and liquid leaking and smoke coming out and i was really trembling from inside out. i've been driving pc's car for like the past 6 years and i never bang her car and the first time i do it, i did it to the worst. obviously it's towed to the workshop opposite church! hahaha...
you must be wondering why did i post this here instead of my personal blog right. so, this is what i think:-1. BELIEVE - discovering a life with God
through all these, i belive that the hands of God was upon us, protecting us and covering us in grace, comforting us (more like comforting me cos pc was really cool about it) and His peace was at the scene because nobody was hurt and none of the drivers came out arguing and shouting. we all talked nicely and even the husband of the aunty came and when i apologised to him, he was like "it's ok, nobody wanted this. it's just unavoidable. it's ok..."
2. BELONG - discovering a life with others
after we drove to the side, pc called charles. well, almost everyone that knows him calls him when there's an accident. he's the best! charles was nearby and he came immedaitely. when he arrived, he told us what to do, he went to get the guy from the workshop to get someone trustable to tow our car, took us to the police station, told us how to write the report before passing us to kelvin and the workshop guy. having him around gives us assurance that someone knows what to do.
and being the ladies there, i can tell u that it was traumatising to have like 10 other guys stopping by just to get business from you. they were aggresive and when we say our friend is coming, they immediately turn around and started accusing us of being the wrong party and it's all our fault and everyone is to claim our insurance. when charles came, he defended us, stood in front of us and answered all the accusations calmly and to leave it to the hands of the police.
nobody asked if we were alright. i was standing there shaking and trembling and having these 'men' pointing fingers at me. without pc and charles there, i think i will burst right out into sobs. u want to know what is church? this is what church means. we stand with each other!!
3. BECOME - discovering a life with purpose
during this accident, pc didnt scold me or was sad about the car or the trouble without car right before the wedding or the happenings because she knows that it's just a car and it does not rule our lives and just got to get it fixed. part of managing life includes accidents. and she was totally not deterred from continuing to plan and take care of things for her wedding immediately after that. superwoman!
one other thing i discovered in this incident is that when someone is in an accident, please don't shrug them off as though it's a normal affair to be shaken after an accident. assure the person it's gonna be ok soon. one step at a time. hug them and sayang them and tell them u're here for them. if they need you, u'll be there.
and the other thing i discovered is that no matter whose fault it is, the person behind gets the saman - RM300 (compound to RM200 whatever that means).
the other other thing i discovered is that every time after i'm shaken badly (the last was the monkeys and now this) i really need to cry it all out - the wailing kind - to release from the mental tension. i cried in the toilet when i reach my aunty's shop at about 5pm, i cried on the way driving home about 7pm plus and i wailed out loud in the car after i parked below my apt at about 8pm plus. after that i think i'm on the journey of healing. i didnt have nightmare because i was really really drained after the whole day affair. i dropped to a dead sleep last night. i didnt even realised i was that tired. God's peace abounds more than the affairs of the world. God gave me rest.
*side note - i didnt post this blog for you to buy 4-digit yah... ahahahhaahha.. just kidding
4-digit no less :P
ReplyDeleteWell, thank God no one was injured and that we have family standing on our sides! (Good job, Charles). I'm glad you're OK.
yah.. pc say, if anyone wants to get her a wedding gift, she needs a new car! hahaha...
ReplyDeletepc needs 2 wheels or 4? :O
ReplyDeleteWhat an example of being cool (as in "calm" in such situation)
Thank God I'm working close with such "sample".
Learning to be like ONE!
This accident was not accidentally an accident.
heys Sharon!=) I hope you're feeling better.=) cheer up yea?Thank God none of you were hurt. *hugs* =)
ReplyDeleteyup. thanks for concern. was very shaken that day. i think i tahan until i cried out loud in the car about 8pm that night... after that i'm ok d... =)
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